Blog this item

仁慈的吸引力

By 皮耶洛．費魯奇, 席玉蘋 (Translator)

(45)

| Paperback | 9789867291790

Like 仁慈的吸引力?
Join aNobii to see if your friends read it, and discover similar books!

Book Description

仁慈有許多不同的面向，可是他的精髓簡單至極：它省去了我們浪費在猜疑、憂愁、忿恨與無謂設防上的大量精力，讓生活回歸到原本簡單純粹的面貌。也因此，仁慈是一種無須大費力氣的處世之道，也是至為經濟實惠的生活態度。以最廣博的角度來看仁慈，它是一種放諸四海皆準的藥方──它先治個人：唯有具備關懷他人能力、愛自己的人才算健全；繼而治所有世人：因為人際關係越融洽，我們就越快樂、越成功。仁慈的十八種面向，說明了仁慈的無限可能。活在一個仁慈的世界裡，我們會變得更加富足。

1 Review

Global Complexity

“Survival of the Kindest” was written by Piero Ferrucci who is a psychotherapist and philosopher who was a student and collaborator with Roberto Assagioli, the founder of psychosynthesis. The book points out many key words around the kindness and also indicates the relationship with the kindness. It ... (continue)

“Survival of the Kindest” was written by Piero Ferrucci who is a psychotherapist and philosopher who was a student and collaborator with Roberto Assagioli, the founder of psychosynthesis. The book points out many key words around the kindness and also indicates the relationship with the kindness. It attracted me because its content is so similar to what we talk about in our discussion hour. I am happy we find another supporter, and we are also his supporters.
However there are so many key words and the author didn’t underline the relation among them; hence I have to say some words separately for each chapter.
Preface: Kindness-a kind of attitude and a kind of life style
What is kindness? It is a kind of nature status of strong will, true and warm and also includes the “no” to the appropriate person in suitable occasion but not try to please everybody.
CH1 Honest
When you are honest, it means risk. However in the long term it is kind for you to be so. And please respect our nature of honest and believe others that they have such a kind of generosity and maturity to accept the true.
CH2 Warm
We need warm and also need to provide warm; but never forget the distance, boundary and apathy if necessary.
CH3 Forgive
Admit that I am not feeling good, even terrible, and then think about the affairs with another point of view especially on the other person’s side.
CH4 Touch
Don’t forget face-to-face communication.
CH5 Belongingness
Why we always say we have no belongingness. For example, and we complain the antiforeign tend of Shanghainese so that we cannot find belongingness in Shanghai, actually, we are not open enough to understand them and accept the difference between us. Maybe we should adjust our feeling about belonglingness.
CH6 Trust
The other side of the coin of trust is the acceptance of risk. When we don’t try to control the whole we accept the risk, which is a kind of submissiveness.
CH7 Concentration
Concentration helps you to live here and now, and try to observe everything at the moment without judgment and label.
CH8 Empathy
It is not rational when we impeach others who are different from ourselves, and it’s just reaction without control.
CH9 Humility
There are someone else in the world and I am not the only one the world needs.
CH10 Patient
The major usage of patience is for a sourpuss .
CH11 Generosity
Everyone has the card which is needed by others.
The interpersonal relationship depends on how much we are willing to share with others.
Someone is generous when he does more than necessary.
CH12 Respect
Respect means you should give others a due space.
CH13 Flexibility
I am always free, even though I am busy.
CH14 Memory
Not everything is disposable.
CH15 Faithful
Something likes trust.
CH16 Thankful
When you are thankful, you are in the heaven.
It is necessary to be happy, at least a sense of well being that you can find out the value from the trifle.
CH17 Service
We close to the cuntomers when we are close emotionally.
CH18 Happy
Happy is simple.
前言：仁慈—— 一种立场，一种生活方式
真正的仁善是一种强韧、真诚、温暖的自然状态。一个人的仁慈（和善）包括在适当的时候，对适当的人说不，而不是一味的取悦他人。
第一章诚实
行事诚实尽管涉有风险，例如说真话而引人不快或是说不而令别人失望，只要聪明有技巧，长远来看反而是最仁慈的举动，因为它尊重我们的诚信本质，也肯定别人有接受的雅量和成熟。
第二章温暖
我们需要温暖，也要给人以温暖，却不能忘记距离与界线，以及必要的冷漠。
第三章宽恕
承认自己的不爽与痛苦，然后将心比心，并学会换个角度看问题
第四章接触
沟通
第五章归属感
为什么没有归属感？是因为自己没有开放的胸襟来接受其他人。正如我们时常抱怨上海人排外，觉得在上海找不到归属感，而事实上很有可能是我们自己不够开放，去理解他们，接受差异。或许我们修正自己的归属感。
第六章信任
因为信任的另一面是接受风险，很多时候接受风险也就是放弃控制全局的冲动，这是一种顺服。
第七章专心
专心能让你学会活在当下，观察眼前的一切，不评断，不褒贬，眼前是什么就是什么，不必贴上标签，也无须论断是非。
第八章同理心
对异于我们的人存疑并非出于理性，却是基于我们无从控制的实时反应。
第九章谦逊
世上还有别人存在，并非唯「我」独尊
第十章耐心
耐心这种美德最大的用途是对付难缠的人
第十一章慷慨
每个人手上都有一些其他玩家需要的牌。
我们的人际关系，依赖我们愿意付出多少程度的自己和别人交流。
这些人都是做得比必要的多一点。他们都是慷慨的人
第十二章尊重
尊重，就是给别人一个应有的空间
好评断人就是一个障碍
第十三章弹性
随时有空
第十四章记忆
用过即丢
第十五章忠诚
正如信任一样
第十六章感恩
威廉•布雷克（William Blake，1757~1827，英国诗人及雕刻家）说得好：“感激本身就是天堂。”
即使是微不足道的事也能看出价值来，这是快乐（至少是幸福感）的必要条件。
感恩就定义来看，和英雄行径正好相反。它的基础不是勇气、力气或才华，而是自己的不足。
我们自小所受的教育让我们相信，每个人都有一条泾渭分明的边界，想要有所进益和成就，只能自己咬紧牙根，埋头苦干。
第十七章服务
只有情感才能靠近顾客
第十八章喜乐
快乐原来可以很简单

Is this helpful?

Yerdua said on Oct 15, 2009 | Add your feedback