This is truly an excellent book.
It contains a lot of actual useful tips and techniques that are all quick-and-easy to put in place and, above all, backed up by scientific research. That's where this book makes a difference.
Personally, this is the book where I made the highest quantity of bookmarks ever.
It's going to be a reference point in my library.
This book talks about a range of topics usually covered in self-help books in a very informal manner. The difference is that the author is a reputed psychologist and science backs all the assertions made in the text.
In several points I could check with other books (best-sellers by Malcolm Gladwell or pedagogy texts) and there were no contradictions.
The style, although full of facts and figures, is not boring at all, but I miss some more depth in the different topics....Continua
It is a self help book with research evidence that teaches you how to improve your well beings. Although I have seen some of the researches and conclusions in Tom Rath's "Wellbeing", Malcom Gladwell's "What the dog Saw" and other books, it still provides good tips for self improvement. In addition, this book talks about various aspects of life and it is sort of a bit of everything. Yet, it is well organized that you won't get lost.
One common theme across the book is the relationship between body and mind. Old school of psychology always emphasizes that our body is affected by our mind. It is interesting to find in this book that the opposite is also true.
Start to write a diary about gratitude, bright future and terrific time.
Buy experiences, not goods.
Better to give than to receive.
Sit up straight.
Try to learn something with ever-changing experience
Be likeable (ask for a small favour, show your genuine interest, smile and eye contact)
Show your weakness in the beginning and strengths at the end.
Use simple language.
Bystander Effect - ask individual explicitly rather than the mass.
Concept of reciprocity (esp to strangers!)
Positive thinking is not enough - you need to have realistic assessment of the situation too!
To fight against procrastination, a small step into the project can lead your subconscious to start to work.
Writing your own eulogy
keep your lousy man (conscious) busy (playing crossword?) and let your quiet mate (sub-conscious) speak.
Look out on trees and grass.
One new person in a group can spark creativity
Bodywork - pull against the table (attracted to the subject), cross your arms (shows persistence).
a brief touch on upper arm
sharing your thoughts
experience that makes your heart beats faster
disagree than agree
thinking of the positive aspects of the event you found hurtful.
Couples who face life obstacles together, stick together.
Any objects that remind your partner will help bonding too.
Polarization in group decision
Beware of sales skill (That's not all!, Start small and build up, Start big and quickly back down)
Pitfall of regret - you know what's wrong with a decision. But the benefits of something did not happen is only limited by your imagination.
Detect Liars - build "honesty baseline" to detect unusual hard thinking, sudden decrease in details and avoidance of 'I', 'mine' or 'me'.
Email minimize the risk of beng lied.
Choosing baby names with royal association. Avoid choosing names with negative meaning.
Praise the effort, not results (to avoid fear of failure)
Avoid threats - threats mean something you want to do but not allowed to do so
Finally a book of the kind I was looking for: data, data, data on cognitive psychology experiments - and not boringly presented.
OK, some of the stuff might be presented in a slightly watered-down fashion and perhaps exaggerated, but one can always go check.
The catchy title is just an excuse for a book dense with facts....Continua