本來以為依本係Cliche，只係希望揾到一點點insight，結果，估佢唔到。</p><p>在作者列舉出既十個原因，雖然有好多估到諗到做緊，但係都真係估唔到我會中：To help you discover the play in lift.</p><p>唉，係，我樣樣都太認真，放鬆唔到。去旅行都可以好似行軍打仗咁，要跟足plan，去齊甚至要超標完成旅遊點。我真係會驚開心就會得意忘形，跟住就會有錯有鑊，會用晒d adrenaline high跟住跌入底谷，一沈不起。</p><p>Life is tough. Life is brutal. Things change. Things break. It's like, you can eat your dessert when you've finished you meal, but I don't feel I've ever finished my meal. Thinking of life as something to be enjoyed is scary. Pleasure is something I need to work at. </p><p>Deep down, do you feel you don't deserve to have fun? Of course not. But then, to be honest, the answer is yes. I am shocked on the absurdity of this answer. But, this is my answer. This is what I think. It is so hard-wired deep inside that I am not even aware of it!</p><p>And, even finished reading this chaper, I still have no clue at all on how to play and have fun and enjoy life! This is truly serious. I have to record it.</p><p>All the ten reasons actually point to a single one, to feel at home in the world. Am I a squirrel happen to put into a desert? </p><p>Another very touching quote:</p><p>Two victims of raping:</p><p>One woman said:<br />"Something good came out of that horrible experience. I'd always been treated like a nothing by boyfriends, friends, you name it. So I'd always thought I was nothing. Although I didn't realize it, that was the battle of my life - when was I going to wake up to the fact that I was someone who matters? I'll tell you - being raped really gives you the message that you're nothing. That was the horror of it for me. Being treated so powerfully like a nothing. Well, it took me a long time but I finally saw that if I think of myself as a nothing then I 'm doing to myself just what that rapist did to me. And I refuse to do that. That terrible experience really forced me to accept myself as a worthwhile person. I promised myself I would never again reject the real me." </p><p>Another woman said:<br />"It's funny what goes through your mind when something really terrible happens. When that guy was raping me I remember thinking, Well, you've spent you life being afraid, and being raped was one of your worst fear, and now it's happening. And here's that part I'm ashamed to admit because what happened to me really was truly unspeakable. But being raped wasn't as bad as living with all the fears I had for all those years. That guy wanted me to be afraid. Why would I do that to myself? That was the beginning for me of learning to live without fear."</p><p>If you act like a doormat, he cannot help but step on you.</p><p>Everthing happens for a reason? I hope so, and yes, I tend to believe so.
It seems like, one can only absorb what she is ready to understand... I get the author's point finally in the second reading. Everything happens for a reason does not mean that there is a explanation on the kamma.. on what you have done in previous life to deserve it. It is also not to justify why little babies get cancer, why there are wars and famine, why people get cancer...
It is that, whatever happened and we survive through... there must be a lesson that we can get from... NOT from the event... but to look inside ourselves... and learn / discover how we truly are.
And all the 10 reasons the author listed here have a common theme... the reason why these happen are to make us better persons!...Continua