Susan Cain analyzed introverts in depth, citing various neuroscience and psychological studies that define introverts. The years she spent learning about what makes introverts tick and how they can have invaluable contribution to the society are all
..." condensed into this book. As an introvert, I often feel the pressure to “fake it until I make it” to fit in a world that prefers extroverts. This books gives me the comfort that I am not inferior in anyway; I just function differently. Personally, I am glad that this book started the Quiet Revolution that asks our society to treasure introvertism more.
She writes about the science behind the personalities in laymen’s terms, so it is not challenging or boring to read. She also uses a lot of stories that demonstrate her points, so it is more relatable than just experimental results and data. If you want to learn about introvertism, this book is great.
While she sings the praises for introverts, she also suggests that we need to move out of our comfort zone to socialize in order to optimize success in relationships and careers. However, I find that there is not enough in this book teaching the readers how to do that. Well, perhaps that’s a job for another book.Continua...Nascondi
When my brother announced he is an extreme introvert, it blows me away. No way! He talked so much when he was a kid, I was there!But according to this book, the definition of introvert is that those people who prefer gathering with few well known
..."well known people than large amount of strangers, prefer deep discussion rather than small talk, could stil have strong social skills and enjoy parties, but after a whle wish they were home in their pajamas. They express themselves better in writing than in conversation, prefer environment that are not overstimulating.... And they tends to reveal a lot of private stuff in internet... Well... I hear a lot of bells ring...
Hm... But introvert also prefer concentrate in one task rather then multi-tasking. They prefer listening to talking, really think before they talk, feel comfortable with solitude but not conflict.... They are relatively immune to the lures of wealth and fame...
Well, you see the problem with the popular psychology and reporter-turn-writer? They tends to over-simplify things and turn everything binary. You are either extrovert or introvert. Even if you fall in between, you must be stronger in either one, as if the world only have 2 poles to stand on. And since this is written by an introvert, who want to counter the over-expressive, loud American culture, you will not be surprised to read a lot of absurd behaviour of extreme extrovert.
Hm... can't a person enjoy both small talk and also deep discussion? Isn't it always happens that some topic are better to discuss face to face, while deeper more complicated message are better communicated through writing?? As we get older, don't many of us learn to think and listen more, and go less parties and after seeing so much of the world, don't many of us simply start to enjoy home in pajamas more? Romantize introvert as quiet Einstein do nobody good. Human is more complicated than this.
And most important of all, people change. We keep evolving. Personality is not fixed. We could change into better person. We could transcend the labels of introvert / extrovert. Simply be better, more understanding, sophisticated people.Continua...Nascondi
"This [collaborative] style of teaching reflects the business community," one fifth-grade teacher in a Manhattan public school told me, "where people’s respect for others is based on their verbal abilities, not their originality or insight. You
... have to be someone who speaks well and calls attention to yourself. It's an elitism based on something other than merit."Continua...Nascondi
In one public school I visited in downtown Atlanta, a third-grade teacher pointed out a quiet student who likes to "do his own thing." "But we put him in charge of safety patrol one morning, so he got the chance to be a leader, too," she assured
... me. This teacher was kind and well-intentioned, but I wonder whether students like the young safety officer would be better off if we appreciated that not everyone aspires to be a leader in the conventional sense of the word - that some people wish to fit harmoniously into the group, and others to be independent of it.Continua...Nascondi
Studies have shown that, indeed, introverts are more likely than extroverts to express intimate facts about themselves online that their family and friends would be surprised to read, to say that they can express the "real me" online, and to spend
... more time in certain kinds of online discussions. They welcome the chance to communicate digitally.Continua...Nascondi
As the science journalist Winifred Gallagher writes: "The glory of the disposition that stops to consider stimuli rather than rushing to engage with them is its long association with intellectual and artistic achievement. Neither E=mc² or Paradise
...i>Paradise Lost was dashed off by a party animal."Continua...Nascondi