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Secrets of the Baby Whisperer

How to Calm, Connect and Communicate with Your Baby

By Tracy Hogg

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| Softcover | 9780091857028

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Overjoyed but exhausted? Perplexed but purring? Then you may just be a new parent. And if you're looking for practical reassurance and advice then Secrets of the Baby Whisperer: How to Calm, Connect and Communicate with your Baby is for you. Continue

Overjoyed but exhausted? Perplexed but purring? Then you may just be a new parent. And if you're looking for practical reassurance and advice then Secrets of the Baby Whisperer: How to Calm, Connect and Communicate with your Baby is for you.

Clearly a remarkable person, Tracy Hogg (the "baby whisperer") has an impressive ability to understand and relate to babies. Herself a mother, she is an experienced maternity nurse and has derived her approach from her dealings with countless babies and their families. Forgiving and sympathetic in style, her book is well written, immensely readable and is full of gems and shrewd observations that even the seasoned parent may not have worked out. She emphasises the importance of showing respect to your baby: "Just try to remember that this is a little human being in your arms, a person whose senses are alive, a tiny being who already knows your voice and even what you smell like." And so the parent is instructed to give the newly returned-home baby an explanatory commentary and friendly guided tour of his or her new home.

Those who enjoy personality quizzes will love the Know-Your-Baby Quiz in which you can "zero in" on your baby's type which, according to Ms Hogg could be "Angel", "Textbook", "Touchy", "Spirited" or "Grumpy". She then provides tips on the best way to handle each type of baby. Advocating a structured routine with the acronym EASY (Eat, Activity, Sleep, You) she then demonstrates how it works for the benefit of all the family. The book covers most topics from sex to weaning, but possibly the most helpful, even beautiful, section is where the Baby Whisperer divulges her secrets for interpreting your baby's body language, signals and cries.

If you find The Baby Whisperer helpful, you may well also be interested in Gina Ford's The Contented Little Baby Book, What to Expect: the First Year and the slightly higher brow Babyhood by Penelope Leach. --Rebecca Pickering

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    林碗碗的驚喜箱裡有一本超級嬰兒通:天才保母崔西的育兒祕訣,翻了幾頁簡直就是我和韋哥想要的方式,記錄一下。

    1.相信寶寶是有行為能力的個體,而非無助的嬰兒
    尊重寶寶,假設他聽得懂大人說的話,就算他可能聽不懂,也能從語氣分辨出,放慢速度、用鼓勵的語氣他會知道。

    2.不只是和寶寶說話,而是和他對話
    雙向的互動,包括聲音和肢體語言,有禮貌、不斷的說和解釋

    3.了解每個嬰兒的成長速度不同,每個寶寶都是獨一無二的個體
    接受寶寶原本的樣子,而不是一直拿來和其他人做比較,寶寶有自己獨特回應世界的方式,花 ...(continue)

    林碗碗的驚喜箱裡有一本超級嬰兒通:天才保母崔西的育兒祕訣,翻了幾頁簡直就是我和韋哥想要的方式,記錄一下。

    1.相信寶寶是有行為能力的個體,而非無助的嬰兒
    尊重寶寶,假設他聽得懂大人說的話,就算他可能聽不懂,也能從語氣分辨出,放慢速度、用鼓勵的語氣他會知道。

    2.不只是和寶寶說話,而是和他對話
    雙向的互動,包括聲音和肢體語言,有禮貌、不斷的說和解釋

    3.了解每個嬰兒的成長速度不同,每個寶寶都是獨一無二的個體
    接受寶寶原本的樣子,而不是一直拿來和其他人做比較,寶寶有自己獨特回應世界的方式,花時間觀察寶寶,了解他想要表達的意思,寶寶被信賴和了解後,也能放心覺得自己安全無虞,更能夠和自己玩而非不斷哭泣。

    4.父母需要自信
    父母也放慢腳步跟隨寶寶的步調,傾聽內在的聲音,周遭親朋好友的建議容易讓新手爸媽感到挫敗和混亂,反而忽略原本自己就有的基本常識。建立養育子女的自信,知道每個家庭的需要迥然不同。

    5.支持新手爸媽
    養育小孩沒有所謂的應該怎樣做才正確,也不是所有爸媽都一開始就能成為稱職的父母

    初為人母/父
    記得寶寶是突然被人以很快的速度、很用力的摩擦、拍打,突然誕生在這個充滿陌生聲音的世界
    新手爸媽最先該做的事是了解自己的寶寶,而不是過去九個月來所夢想的寶寶
    回家前準備得越充分,就有更多時間可以觀察寶寶:
    1.鋪好嬰兒床
    2.設好換尿布的桌子,將需要的紙巾、尿布、紗布衣、手帕放在好拿的地方
    3.準備好寶寶的專用衣櫃,將新的物品拆下標籤與包裝,用溫和不刺激的清潔劑洗好放進衣櫃裡
    4.冰箱食物充足,或是確定自己不必擔心吃的問題
    5.去醫院前不用帶太多東西
    6.讓家裡的貓咪也有心理準備,可以先拿毯子或尿布讓貓咪習慣寶寶的味道,暫時不讓他們獨處
    7.回到家後將寶寶抱在懷裡,替他做一次家中的導覽
    8.用溫柔和善的聲音稱呼他的名字,讓互動好像在對話
    9.慢慢來,回家後好好休息,婉轉限定訪客的熱情來訪

    了解寶寶的類型
    寶寶在不同人面前可能會有不同的表現,我們也容易將自己投射在寶寶身上,只看自己想看的部分
    不為不同的意見爭吵,比較誰了解寶寶,了解寶寶的類型只是幫助自己發掘寶寶身上發出的訊號
    性格是可以後天培養的

    維持一個規律的程序E.A.S.Y.
    充實但有彈性的原則,讓寶寶的生活有慣性,習慣事情的自然順序,了解尊重寶寶和讓他主導一切有很大的差別。在一開始就建立安全、一致的環境,設定步調讓寶寶跟隨
    Eating吃飯,吃完後不急著放回床上,這樣會讓寶寶變得依賴奶瓶或媽媽的胸部才能入睡
    Activity活動,除了吃飯和睡覺外做的事情就是活動
    Sleeping睡覺,學習在自己的床上入睡,引導、培養他的獨立性
    You爸媽自己的時間,休息、恢復精神,在生理和情緒上都要讓自己慢慢恢復,不急著馬上步入軌道

    作者認為嚴格紀律派和嬰兒滿足派都不會成功,一種不尊重寶寶,一種不尊重養育者,E.A.S.Y.採取折衷的觀點,滿足每個人的需要。

    踩剎車放慢速度S.L.O.W.
    大人經常用過於魯莽或展現不安的方式介入寶寶的生活,例如寶寶一哭就急忙的換掉他的尿布、或是搔癢反而讓寶寶更為不安。當寶寶緊張不安時或哭泣時,試試簡單的策略:
    Stop暫停,記得哭泣是嬰兒的語言,不在寶寶一哭時就去抱他,先深呼吸提高自己的覺察力,隔離身邊不客觀的建議
    Listen傾聽,這個特別的哭泣代表什麼,不是放任寶寶哭,而是去傾聽他在表達什麼
    Observe觀察,寶寶在做什麼,他的肢體語言表示什麼?週圍的環境怎麼了?
    What's up怎麼了,將聽和看到的為基礎組合起來,做出判斷和回應

    哭泣的意義
    1.寶寶得發展聲音
    寶寶透過咿咿呀呀的哭泣就已經嘗試在和大人交談,這時候如果馬上抱在懷裡或是塞個奶嘴,不僅奪走寶寶的聲音,也是在不經意中訓練他不要求助他人,畢竟各種哭泣都是寶寶在進行要求,練習等一等,聽聽他在說什麼,而非急著回應。

    2.培養寶寶自我慰藉的能力
    3.學習嬰兒的語言

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    ericaliu said on Nov 30, 2013 | Add your feedback

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    《超級嬰兒通》對我而言就是一本嬰兒界的 debug 手冊:你的寶寶為何啼哭?一定有背後潛藏的原因。可能是因為他玩累了,可能因為他餓了,可能因為他需要一個親密的擁抱。做父母的要花時間與耐性扮演測試工程師,在 bug 重現時找出可能的原因,研究啼哭背後的真正理由,而不是每一次都自認為屈服地抱起他,再責怪他難帶或自責自己無法堅持。

    「當你有罪惡感時就告訴自己這句真言:『留些時間給自己並不會傷害到寶寶。』」(p.228)

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    Veronica Lin said on Apr 6, 2013 | Add your feedback

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    很有趣的一本書哦,雖然和百歲醫生的觀點不同,不過她書中寫的經驗豐富,除了照顧孩子,也照顧到了母親的需要,感覺很棒!

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    imtidy said on Jul 6, 2012 | Add your feedback

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    很適合新手爸媽。我認為本書對父母最大的效用是,讓你試著理解嬰兒,不會厭煩嬰兒的哭聲。

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    Neww said on Jan 10, 2012 | Add your feedback

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    適合懷孕~初生嬰兒閱讀,我家的兩歲了就不適用了。

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    Vsy Chen said on Oct 6, 2011 | Add your feedback

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