A thought provoking book. I rather like Howard's asking "obvious" questions and playing devil's advocate. The unexpected feedback from Dalai Lama did challenge my own way of thinkings.
- Hope, compassion and inner discipline
- Western culture places too much emphasis on rationalistic tendency
- Western psychology over emphasise the role of unconscious in looking for the source of one's problems
- "I'm glad that I'm not a ..." is much more assuring than "I wish I were a ..."
- the true antidote of greed is contentment
- happiness vs pleasure: "Do you think doing this would bring you greater happiness or greater pleasure?"
- In Western society, the old and the sick are shipped off to nursing homes or hospitals. Losing contact with the realities of life, we lost the ability to cope with suffering.
- the only factor that can give you refuge or protection from the destructive effects of anger an hatred is your practice of tolerance and patience. An end result is forgiveness.
- focus on "pulling out the arrow" rather than spending time wondering who shot it
Why don't put some of the buddhist ideas into our lifes if it can help us?explained starting from a critic point of view, an introduction to some of the best buddhist principles and their everyday applications.
I felt like Mr. Culter was consuming Dalai Lama's good will to produce this book. From a western psychologist's point of view to decipher the Buddhism's wisdom to make western people's lives happier? It does not sound adequate. But I have admired the effort from the author and Dalai Lama for this difficult task.
There are some good points being pointed out by the Dalai Lama, like pursuing "High" (glory moment) is not happiness. It is not sustainable. Once all highs are tapering off, we are not happier than we used to be....Continua