Confronting and solving problems is a painful process, which most of us attempt to avoid. Avoiding resolution results in greater pain and an inability to grow both mentally and spiritually. Drawing heavily on his own professional experience, Dr M. ...
Scott Peck, a psychiatrist, suggests ways in which facing our difficulties - and suffering through the changes - can enable us to reach a higher level of self-understanding. He discusses the nature of loving relationships: how to distinguish dependency from love; how to become one's own person and how to be a more sensitive parent. This is a book that can show you how to embrace reality and yet achieve serenity and a richer existence. Hugely influential, it has now sold over six million copies - and has changed many people's lives round the globe. It may change yours.
A practical, realistic perspective of love and how childhood affects our mentality and behaviour. A little difficult to understand though.
Love..."extend one's self for the purpose of nurturing one's won or another's spiritual growth." p.85
"for that someone (or for oneself) we take an extra step or walk an extra mile. ... Love is effortful." p.87
"...the experience of falling in love is specifically a sex-linked erotic experience." "The bloom of romance always fades." p.89
"...the world view of patients is always an essential part of their problems,"... find out their religions. p. 200
"...among the risks of love was the risk of moving into the unknown of new experience." "The road of spiritual growth, however, lies in the opposite direction. We begin by distrusting what we already believe, by actively seeking the threatening and unfamiliar, by deliberately challenging the validity of what we have previously been taught and hold dear." p.207
"...our unconscious is wiser than we are about everything." p.268
"So original sin does exist; it is our laziness." p.292
"greater awareness... comes slowly, piece by piece, and each piece must be worked for by the patient effort of study and observation of everything, including themselves." p.306
The different drum (by Scott Peck)
Women who love too much (by Robin Norwood)Continua...Nascondi
Depression is a natural answer of the body to the need of giving up parts of one self. The most common chronic depression is a giving-up neurosis, originated from taking away from the child things before he was ready to accept their loss.
The book is divided in three main chapters. The 1st is about the relationship with oneself and must be read as so. The 2nd is about the relationship with the beloved ones, the 3rd is about God. Since I found it hardly credible I didn't cover it.
The feeling of being valuable - “I am a valuable person” is essential to mental health and is a cornerstone of self-discipline. [..] because when one considers oneself valuable one will take care of oneself in all ways that are necessary.
... Self-discipline is self-caring. Continua...Nascondi
Nobody has any ground to say something like that. As Dennett explains, differently from science if we were to give a multiple-choice quiz to religious experts about God, they wouldn't be able to give the same answers; there's no agreement on basic concepts.