The Search for Significance
The Trip In
We perceive situations through the grid of our beliefs.The first step to freedom is recognizing that life is distorted by our expectation of what we are going to experience.So from where do our destructive emotions come? Answer: Destructive
We perceive situations through the grid of our beliefs.
The first step to freedom is recognizing that life is distorted by our expectation of what we are going to experience.
So from where do our destructive emotions come? Answer: Destructive thoughts. What triggers destructive thoughts? Answer: False beliefs. And how are the false beliefs energized? Answer: Our life situations.
Can we control our life situations to the degree that we can keep our false beliefs from being triggered? We try sometimes, but obviously that cannot be done.
Often, if we have something medically internally wrong with us, we undergo some type of imaging examination that can "look" for what is wrong. The Trip In allows us a similar process to look for false beliefs.
Phase One: Bondage
We think, I feel this way because of "someone". We become upset with that someone both for what he/she did and for our own response.
The next time you become upset and blame someone for your response, think about your tube of toothpaste. This morning you squeezed your toothpaste tube, and out of it came toothpaste. The reason the toothpaste came out is because that is what is in the tube. Someone may have squeezed you once, and out of you may have come responses that were really ungodly, may be even embarrassing. You blame another for your reponses, but you have to understand that what came out of you is what was in you.
Thoughts can be tricky. A thought that can seem and sound harmless can really stand for other thoughts that, when understood, are obviously the reason for the destructive emotions.
Sometimes destructive thoughts simply make no sense, but we still live by them.
Destructive behavior takes the form of either external behavior (what you can see and count) or internal behavior (thought activity). Often, we are far more concerned with external behavior even though it is always preceded by internal behavior.
Think about your own life. How many times do you think of why you are justified in doing something before you actually do it?
Destructive behavior may be obviously wrong, such as an affair; or it may be something that seems rather innocent. We must be careful how we justify our actions that appear innocent on the surface.
Phase Two: Obedience
It may seem odd to you that we would talk about confessing and repenting for being deceived. For your confession to really be complete, you would need to recognize how destructive these false beliefs were in your life. Besides agreeing about the destructiveness of the false beliefs, the destructive thoughts, and the destructive behavior, it was also necessary to forgive (many times).
Phase Three: Freedom
We have held on to and used these false beliefs for so long that they seem normal to us. If we approach our life situations passively, they will always rule. Therefore, our model is to identify, confess, reject, and then replace.