Before giving birth, I read Gina Ford, Tracy Hogg, and several other parenting books. They all made perfect sense - feeding on a "relaxed" schedule, training baby to sleep independently, etc - all sounded like tried, wise advice. Once the baby arrived, however, they stopped making sense. Calming a crying baby by holding her hands? Putting her down to sleep when she's only drowsy? Letting her cry for 5 mins before tending to her? Are you kidding me???
Turns out, we mothers have the perfect mothering tool built into us. The lumps we've carried for all these years in front of us are not just for men to gawk at. Our breasts are the best source of energy and nutrients and antibodies, best incubator, best pacifier, best everything. A baby belongs with her mother, skin-to-skin, without much of the intervention that our society has created to make money from eager mothers.
As baby caring has become shut behind closed doors, "to each her own", women are told how they should tend to their young and have lost the confidence to listen to her instincts. This book helps you regain this confidence by telling that what you feel like doing (holding and rocking, feeding on cue) are perfectly fine. It also attempts to give you the relevant scientific research so that you can defend your "unconventional" choices, although some of them can sound alarmist given how little we understand the physiological basis of mothering instincts.
Some reviews say this book is too judgmental and too strongly biased against formula feeding. If you do not intend to be amazed by and to accept how far formula feeding is inferior to breastfeeding, do not get this book. But if you want to do what's best and, really, normal for your child, this book can help....Continua