The ideas in this book are similar to <Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus>.
It emphasized the biological and psychological differences between men and women.
They have evolved into what they are today, with their mindset determined by the wiring in the brain and the hormonal level, rather than by social conditioning.
Many researches and experiments were quoted in the book, making it sound more convincing; but some seem to be misleading.
I like the book in the way that its English was easy and there were daily examples that made you nod.
Despite the differences, I believe good relationship does exist.
"Under pressure, men avoid touch and retreat into their own world. More than half the women in the same test, on the other hand, initiated approaches to men, not for sex, but for the intimacy of touch."
"Men, being responsible for hunting game, needed areas in the brain for longdistance navigation, to develop tactics for organising the kill and to hone skills for hitting a target. They didn't need to be good conversationalists or sensitive to anyone's emotional needs, so they never developed strong brain areas for interpersonal skills."
"A man's brain is configured for one thing at a time because of fewer connecting fibres between the left and right hemispheres, and a more compartmentalised brain. Take a brain scan of his head when he's reading, and you'll find he is virtually deaf."
"Indirect speech is a female speciality and serves a specific purpose – it builds relationships and rapport with others by avoiding aggression, confrontation or discord."
"Men have always defined themselves by their work and accomplishments and women define their own self-worth by the quality of their relationships."
"If a woman is unhappy in her relationships, she can’t concentrate on her work. If a man is unhappy at work he can’t focus on his relationships."
"A man won’t admit mistakes because he thinks she won’t love him. But the reality is, a woman loves a man more when he will admit mistakes."
"If a man completely shuts off, let him do it, he’ll be fine. If a woman shuts off, there’s trouble brewing and it’s time for deep discussion."...Continua