This is even better than the first one, a must read for any (too) nice girl. So far, this is the very best book on the topic, highly recommended!
A nice book with some general rules about guys, not all men are typical though. Some principles are true but some are too exaggerating. Overall, it is always worthwhile to love your own self, before becoming too keen on or spend overwhelming effort on anybody else.
"When you need his approval, it blinds you and you quickly become the vulnerable one in the relationship. Adopt the philosophy of ‘approval neither desired nor required’."
"When he asks what kind of food you like, be honest. It’s a good thing for you to tell him how to please you because pleasing you keeps him engaged in the relationship."
"Once it’s obvious you are totally 100 percent hooked, there’s nothing exciting about you anymore."
"He should feel desired. He should feel valued, appreciated, and adored. Just not after he behaves badly; otherwise you’ll create a monster."
"Notice how you aren’t being pulled in, but at the same time you are signaling that his behavior is unacceptable… When you don’t give him a negative reaction, you aren’t giving him anything to assuage his guilt. He can’t put the ‘crazy mark’ on you. He can’t say, ‘She’s a live wire. Look at her. She’s attacking me for no good reason.’"
"When he gives you something, always acknowledge the kindness behind the gesture, not the material item itself. Just like women can’t get too many compliments, a man can’t get too much appreciation for his contribution."
"Pick up your own lobby. Don’t wait on him. Get busy with something else so he is unsure when he can see you."
"Whenever boredom sets in, simply break the routine. As soon as the routine changes, it will pique his interest and the relationship will become interesting again."
"In life, half the battle has to do with the lens you choose to see yourself through. Your fulfillment hinges on whether you see yourself through a positive lens or a negative one."
"A man wants to feel like he is your hero. Men need to feel validated. He wants to feel that you admire him, look up to him, and that he is the protective one in the relationship. But he wants that from a self-respecting woman who has a backbone and who first and foremost loves herself."...Continua
Some main points are throughout the whole book which is quite true, like:
1. Men/relatn are just part of ur life, not the whole.
Devote urself to ur life, and be an individual.
2. Economically independent.
3. Less control is more control.
4. Tell him what u want, dont make him guess.
5. But wrap that education with honey.
6. You are not his sex slave, don't devalue urself.
Withholding is an art of seduction.
But nearly every relationship books for gals tell u these.
But something in this book may not be practical, so judge it critically urself~...Continua