I use both halves of a reliable system to consistently make better decisions:
a cool head and a warm heart.
I USE MY HEAD, by asking myself a practical question:
AM I MEETING THE REAL NEED, INFORMING MYSELF OF OPTIONS, AND THINKING IT THROUGH?
Is it a mere want or a real need? What information do I need? Have I created options? If I did "x", then what would happen? Then what?
I CONSULT MY HEART, by asking myself a private question:
DOES MY DECISION SHOW I AM HONEST WITH MYSELF, TRUST MY INTUITION, AND DESERVE BETTER?
Am I telling myself the truth? Does this feel right? What would I decide if I wasn't afraid? What would I do if I deserved better?