“I was blessed.
I was told I had three months to live.”
On May 24, 2005, Eugene O'Kelly stepped into his doctor's office with a full calendar and a lifetime of plans on his mind. Six days later he would resign as CEO of KPMG. His lifetime of plans dwindled to 100 days, leaving him just enough time to say goodbye.
Chasing Daylight is O'Kelly's honest, touching, and ultimately inspirational memoir completed in the three-and-a-half months between his diagnosis with brain cancer and his death in September 2005. Its haunting yet extraordinarily hopeful voice reminds us to embrace the fragile, fleeting moments of our lives-the time we have with our family, our friends, and even ourselves.
It is an eloquent confirmation that our lives and the people in them are temporary joys, but the time we spend enjoying them is never lost. And if we conquer our fears-even the fear of facing the end of our lives and leaving behind those we love-we can conquer anything....Continua
Things don't go according to plan! Do you still want things in control?
This is a provocative and inspiring story of a dying man, who has a positive mindset to prepare his death. Instead of trying to control everything in his type-A healthy life, he readjusts his altitude to the map of reality (in the language of the Road Less Travelled) and focus his inner energy (the thing he can master).
This story is vastly different from the "death" story of Mitch Albom. This one is more down to earth and yet still touching. I especially like the last chapter written by his wife after his death -
"While he may have left me on the golf course as we were chasing daylight, he sure teed it up for me nicely for the remainder of the round."
A pretty energetic story when I read it in the wake of level 9 earthquake in Japan....Continua
I expected to be moved to tears but was not, Mr. O'Kelly was very matter-of-fact, clinical and logical in his approach to death. It's one way of dealing with death, and likely the only way for a professional accountant and CEO. At the end of the day, death and preparation for death are intensely personal and private matters, so readers will obviously react accordingly....Continua
it's a little hard to rate a book about someone writing about his own impending death - but this is definitely worth reading as i do think most of us don't ever prepare ourselves, even though this might be decades away. we all die anyway, so why not try to have a happier ending and at least work at it?...Continua
This is another book that is amazing. I like the author when facing his inevitable death chose first acceptance, then closure (meaning seeing all his friends and family expressing his gratitude), then trying to strive for consciousness to the end. Meanwhile, he tried to be present at every moment and to enjoy it. It makes me thinking of my own inevitable death, which may come any time (unlike the author who was told that he had only 100 days). And yet, can I ever stay conscious to the end while be present at all present moment! This is a deeply spiritual book that everyone should read because the end can be very near and yet we are not ready for the end....Continua
可能因為作者係商界啦，佢知道自己只有一百日命時，會改自己人生既mission statement，會重新set target，會evaluate result，會覺得自己之前跑得太快，需要好好地減速...真係好business同令我有共鳴。
特別令人難過既係，作者始終都係一個完美主義者，佢想有多一d perfect moment，佢要同自己最親最愛既人作最完美既道別，佢可能cover左好多人，但係，點樣同自己親生既十三歲女人講死亡同道別呢？作者本來想同女兒去一次布拉格，與依個好有文學同藝術細胞既女兒在最好既環境之下，同佢有最好既perfect moment。
咁，就算我地唔止有一百日命(well, who knows)，但係，我地係咪應該每分每刻都提住自己，要make sure 自己既priority係正確嫁呢？
2 Cups of Coffee
When things in your lives seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a day are not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar and the 2 cups of coffee.
A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him. When the class began, he wordlessly picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.
The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.
The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with an unanimous "yes."
The professor then produced two cups of coffee from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed.
"Now," said the professor as the laughter subsided, "I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the important things--your family, your children, your health, your friends and your favourite passions---and if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full.
The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house and your car.
The sand is everything else---the small stuff. "If you put the sand into the jar first," he continued, "there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff you will never have room for the things that are important to you.
"Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Play with your children. Take time to get medical checkups. Take your spouse out to dinner. Play another 18. There will always be time to clean the house and fix the disposal. Take care of the golf balls first---the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand."
One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the coffee represented. The professor smiled. "I'm glad you asked.
It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem, there's always room for a couple of cups of coffee with a friend."
Please share this with someone you care about. I JUST DID....Continua