What would contribute to a child's isolation from people and restraint from expressing his or her emotions? What's the role of the environment? What's the role of parents? How much can a child changed after he received psychological service when he has already been deprived of love for 5 years since his birth? This book tells a moving real story about how Dibs resolve many of his inner conflicts through a trusting therapeutic relationship with the author in a safe environment. The non-directive approach described in the book may not be many clinician's cup of tea, but I believe the values behind are applicable and essential in any therapeutic relation, especially with children. Accepting the children's world view, caring for their needs, validating their feelings, understanding their thoughts. All the above are golden principles in any kind of trusting relationship.
After reading this book, I'm convinced that children have their potential to search for their self. They are capable in developing their own view of world in a constructive way when adequate supports are provided. Try not to tell the children what to do, but listen. Try not to pave every step for them, but let them walk their way out. Children's abstract reasoning is not as good as adult, but never underestimate the sophistication of their emotional world.
I would like to end this review with a quote from the book '(Everyone like Dibs wants) a chance to be a person wanted, respected, accepted as a human being worth of dignity'.