A Message From Elisabeth
We all have lessons to learn during this time called life; this is especially apparent when working with the dying. The dying learn a great deal at the end of life, usually when it is too late to apply. After moving to the Arizona desert in 1995, I had a stroke on Mother's Day that left me paralyzed. I spent the next few years at death's door. Sometimes I thought death would come within a few weeks. Many times, I was disappointed that it did not come, for I was ready. But I have not died because I am still learning the lessons of life, my final lessons. These lessons are the ultimate truths about our lives; they are the secrets to life itself. I wanted to write one more book, not on death and dying but on life and living.
Is this really how I want to live my life?
Each one of us at some point asks this question. The tragedy is not that life is short but that we often see only in hindsight what really matters.
In Life Lessons, her first book on life and living, Elisabeth Kübler-Ross joins with David Kessler to guide readers through the practical and spiritual lessons we need to learn so that we can live life to its fullest in every moment. Many years of working with the dying have shown the authors that certain lessons come up over and over again. Some of these lessons can be difficult to master, but even the attempts to understand them are deeply rewarding. Here, in fourteen accessible chapters, from the Lesson of Love to the Lesson of Happiness, the authors reveal the truth about our fears, our hopes, our relationships, and, above all, the grandness of who we really are....Continua
"What would you do if your parents, society, boss, teacher, weren't around? How would you define yourself? Who is under all that stuff? That's the real you." p.35
"Fortunately, true love is possible, we can feel the love we had hoped for. It does exist, but not in our approach to love. It does not live in the dream of finding the perfect mate or the best friend." p.40
"We find it hard to love people just the way they are. It's almost as if we look for excuses not to love others." p.40
"When you feel unloved, it is not because you are not receiving love; it is because you are withholding love." p.42
"From time to time we must reassert the boundaries by which we define ourselves, saying 'No' or 'That hurts' or 'I will not let you walk over me.' Otherwise we give our power to those who intentionally or unintentionally walk over us. It is our responsibility to take back our power." p.97
"In life when one door closes, another door always opens... but the hallways are a bitch." p.119
"But deep down, at our cores, there are only two emotions: love and fear." p.138
"Making comparisons is probably the shortest route to unhappiness." p.211
"Life is long but time is short." p.213...Continua
If you like Tuesdays with Morrie, I think you will like this book too.
The authors tell us that by knowing death, we can know how to live a better life. Simply speaking, the book's take-home-message is love can conquer all, even in face of death. To me, this book is a bit too religious (I know, perhaps when we come to the issue of life and death, we have to seek solace in religion...). Nevertheless, it is also comforting and inspiring.
This book is good for would-be-therapists to learn how to conceptualize grief/bereaved cases. Illustrating with the different examples, the authors delve into people's complex reactions to loss. I particularly love the chapters on Loss and Fear.