Quiet
by Susan Cain
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Our lives are driven by a fact that most of us can't name and don't understand. It defines who our friends and lovers are, which careers we choose, and whether we blush when we're embarrassed. That fact is whether we're an introvert or an extrovert. The introvert/extrovert divide is the most fundamental dimension of personality. And at least a third of us are on the introverted side. Some of the world's most talented people are introverts. Without them we wouldn't have the Apple computer, the theory of relativity and Van Gogh's sunflowers. Yet extroverts have taken over. Shyness, sensitivity and seriousness are often seen as being negative. Introverts feel reproached for being the way they are. In "Quiet", Susan Cain shows how the brain chemistry of introverts and extroverts differs, and how society misunderstands and undervalues introverts. She gives introverts the tools to better understand themselves and take full advantage of their strengths. Passionately argued, superbly researched, and filled with real stories, "Quiet" will permanently change how we see introverts - and how you see yourself.

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When my brother announced he is an extreme introvert, it blows me away. No way! He talked so much when he was a kid, I was there!

But according to this book, the definition of introvert is that those people who prefer gathering with few well known people than large amount of strangers, prefer deep discussion rather than small talk, could stil have strong social skills and enjoy parties, but after a whle wish they were home in their pajamas. They express themselves better in writing than in conversation, prefer environment that are not overstimulating.... And they tends to reveal a lot of private stuff in internet... Well... I hear a lot of bells ring...

Hm... But introvert also prefer concentrate in one task rather then multi-tasking. They prefer listening to talking, really think before they talk, feel comfortable with solitude but not conflict.... They are relatively immune to the lures of wealth and fame...

Well, you see the problem with the popular psychology and reporter-turn-writer? They tends to over-simplify things and turn everything binary. You are either extrovert or introvert. Even if you fall in between, you must be stronger in either one, as if the world only have 2 poles to stand on. And since this is written by an introvert, who want to counter the over-expressive, loud American culture, you will not be surprised to read a lot of absurd behaviour of extreme extrovert.

Hm... can't a person enjoy both small talk and also deep discussion? Isn't it always happens that some topic are better to discuss face to face, while deeper more complicated message are better communicated through writing?? As we get older, don't many of us learn to think and listen more, and go less parties and after seeing so much of the world, don't many of us simply start to enjoy home in pajamas more? Romantize introvert as quiet Einstein do nobody good. Human is more complicated than this.

And most important of all, people change. We keep evolving. Personality is not fixed. We could change into better person. We could transcend the labels of introvert / extrovert. Simply be better, more understanding, sophisticated people.
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